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86 Talking to your partner about money with Dr Abby Medcalf
As Dr Abby Medcalf likes to put it, talking money leads to talking ‘dirty’ with our partners!
But it’s so much more than just the money talk, right? ABSOLUTELY! How we spend our money is an external expression of the internal state of our marriages, hopes and dreams. So, when couples fight about money and time, we are really fighting about fairness and keeping score.
Dr Abby, a psychologist and author, provides sustainable help to thousands of couples and has also recently written a book, “Being Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won’t Do A Thing”. We explore a few relationship constructs and tools that will change the game, starting with setting your intention.
Show notes
Dr Abby’s super power of helping couples unpack their issues with practical tools.
The number one problem in relationships is COMPETITION.
Having a “better half” is a misnomer. You and your partner are a shared resource.
The “50-50” mentality needs to be thrown out. Fairness is fear-based!
Equality is not equity.
The paradigm of keeping score and the belief system that things won’t change.
The power of setting the intention of what you want from your partner and what you want to offer.
Why don’t couples talk about money given how important it is in life?
The illusion that if we don’t talk about it, it will sort itself out.
Short-cutting the joy of a relationship by short-cutting the planning of your future together.
Working through money matters and shared goals keeps you focussed on the future together.
A shared vision of the future allows you to make valuable trade-offs.
The monthly financial couples meeting outline.
Shifting your mindset of needing to work to choosing to work.
Partnering in money is partnering in life expression.
More about Dr Abby Medcalf
Check out Dr Abby’s podcast, website and book. Also sign up for the Monthly Financial Meeting Outline.
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86 Talking to your partner about money with Dr Abby Medcalf
As Dr Abby Medcalf likes to put it, talking money leads to talking ‘dirty’ with our partners! But it’s so much more than just the money talk, right? ABSOLUTELY! How we spend our money is an external expression of the internal state of our marriages, hopes and dreams. So, when couples fight about money and time, we are really fighting about fairness and keeping score.
I chat with Dr Abby, a psychologist, speaker and author, who provides sustainable help to thousands of couples. Abby has also recently written a book, “Being Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won’t Do A Thing”.
We explore a few relationship constructs and tools that will change the game, starting with setting your intention.
Show notes
§ Abby’s super power of helping couples unpack their issues with practical tools.
§ The number one problem in relationships is COMPETITION.
§ Having a “better half” is a misnomer. You and your partner are a shared resource.
§ The “50-50” mentality needs to be thrown out. Fairness is fear-based!
§ Equality is not equity.
§ The paradigm of keeping score and the belief system that things won’t change.
§ The power of setting the intention of what you want from your partner for the day and what you want to offer.
§ Why don’t couples talk about money given how important it is in life?
§ The illusion that if we don’t talk about it, then it will sort itself out.
§ Shortcutting the joy of a relationship by shortcutting the planning of your future together.
§ Working through money matters and shared goals keeps you focussed on the future together.
§ A shared vision of the future allows you to make valuable trade-offs.
§ The monthly financial couples meeting outline.
§ Shifting your mindset of needing to work to choosing to work.
§ Partnering in money is partnering in life expression.
More about Dr Abby Medcalf
Check out Dr Abby’s podcast, website and book. Also sign up for the Monthly Financial Meeting Outline.
https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast/
https://www.amazon.com/Be-Happily-Married-Partner-Thing-ebook/dp/B07MMTCR7B
https://abbymedcalf.com/the-7-beliefs-you-have-about-money-that-are-hurting-your-relationship/
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Talking money is like talking dirty with our partners! It’s so much more than just money, right? ABSOLUTELY! How we spend our money is an external expression of our internal state of our hopes and dreams for our relationships. I chat with Dr Abby Medcalf, a psychologist and author, who provides help to thousands of couples. We chat about the ONE thing standing in the way!
As Dr Abby Medcalf likes to put it, talking money leads to talking ‘dirty’ with our partners! But it’s so much more than just the money talk. How we spend our money is an external expression of the state of our hopes and dreams for our relationships. Dr Abby, a psychologist and author, helps thousands of couples explore constructs and tools that will change the game, starting with setting your intention.86 Talking to your partner about money with Dr Abby Medcalf
As Dr Abby Medcalf likes to put it, talking money leads to talking ‘dirty’ with our partners! But it’s so much more than just the money talk, right? ABSOLUTELY! How we spend our money is an external expression of the internal state of our marriages, hopes and dreams. So, when couples fight about money and time, we are really fighting about fairness and keeping score.
I chat with Dr Abby, a psychologist, speaker and author, who provides sustainable help to thousands of couples. Abby has also recently written a book, “Being Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won’t Do A Thing”.
We explore a few relationship constructs and tools that will change the game, starting with setting your intention.
Show notes
§ Abby’s super power of helping couples unpack their issues with practical tools.
§ The number one problem in relationships is COMPETITION.
§ Having a “better half” is a misnomer. You and your partner are a shared resource.
§ The “50-50” mentality needs to be thrown out. Fairness is fear-based!
§ Equality is not equity.
§ The paradigm of keeping score and the belief system that things won’t change.
§ The power of setting the intention of what you want from your partner for the day and what you want to offer.
§ Why don’t couples talk about money given how important it is in life?
§ The illusion that if we don’t talk about it, then it will sort itself out.
§ Shortcutting the joy of a relationship by shortcutting the planning of your future together.
§ Working through money matters and shared goals keeps you focussed on the future together.
§ A shared vision of the future allows you to make valuable trade-offs.
§ The monthly financial couples meeting outline.
§ Shifting your mindset of needing to work to choosing to work.
§ Partnering in money is partnering in life expression.
More about Dr Abby Medcalf
Check out Dr Abby’s podcast, website and book. Also sign up for the Monthly Financial Meeting Outline.
https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast/
https://www.amazon.com/Be-Happily-Married-Partner-Thing-ebook/dp/B07MMTCR7B
https://abbymedcalf.com/the-7-beliefs-you-have-about-money-that-are-hurting-your-relationship/
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